Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Heartbreak

“Everyone will get their heart broken one time or another”  

             To me that statement portrays one of the many distressful lies which tend to consume us, consequently fogging God’s beautiful vision of union, commitment, and love. I am well aware that heartbreak in the context of social normality is inevitable.  As a teenage girl, the idea of heartbreak has been stamped into my mind. I, along with almost any other girl or even guy for that matter, expect it. Wake-up, call! There is something wrong with that. There is something wrong with the carefree nature of our hearts.

If you ask me the most important part of the body is without a doubt the heart. The processes of it breaking, shattering, and exploding into a mess doesn’t sound like something I would want to sign up for. I want the first time I fall in love to be the last. Therefore, I am taking a step outside of the world’s pre-established guidelines and moving in a bolder direction towards God instead.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of live.”

The Bible is telling us the sacred truth, our hearts are precious. So why do we constantly and without fail abuse our wellspring of life? I believe we are looking for love and acceptance. We are searching for something to fill the void which inhibits our being. And here is where I insert my cliché and typical, yet vastly overlooked Christian insight- only God can fill that void. Yes, the exclusive title of girlfriend and boyfriend may satisfy the surface and the arms of a significant other might vanish insecurities briefly, but there is no love like the love God continually shows us.

Here is God’s definition of love:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

After reading that passage on love, it is upsetting and disheartening to realize how insignificant society can make love seem. The love in which Satan promotes as being true is drastically different than what God intended it to be. We often times settle for this surface infatuation with someone and we put our hearts into attraction. We wait for our own personal Disney styled prince charming to sweep us off our feet. I am personally guilty of watching a magnitude of chick flicks, and secretly wishing that the picture perfect love story on the television screen would play out in my life.

Through dealing with my own boy experiences and observing my friends handle relationships, I have come to realize what I want and ultimately need. I need a God-filled life and that definitely means God-filled relationships too. I am only 18 and I don’t expect to find my husband in the near future, so why would I want to jeopardize the purity of my heart by falling into the filth of Satan’s lies? This year I have seen the slightest glimpses of heartache appear in my life, which has slapped me in the face. It truly made me realize the importance of my heart.

I am overjoyed to say that I will no longer patiently wait for my Disney prince charming. I no longer want the Hollywood screenplay love. I am staying as far away as I can from temporary relationships that leave lasting scars. I’m embracing the “single life” for now, and being blessed by the comfort of God’s hand. I by no means think this journey I am taking will be easy, but I have the opportunity to replicate God’s astounding form of love by guarding my heart. I pray for God’s obvious presence as I remain steadfast in my convictions, waiting for my Knight wearing the armor of God!